It does say "rarely" and this is an indicator (not necessarily a pure sign) that you were inheriting compassion from the people or environment around you, which is usually how we learn it when young. Very much the point, that, because it isn't inherent. We do have to learn it. You were four and something internal was encouraging you to write a letter to a stranger's children on the loss of their parent. That is much more important than the "weird shame" you felt, I think. Yet that "weird shame" is the more "natural" feeling, the more "normal" feeling that most people feel: "it's none of my business." So, even by four, you'd already been learning that from your environment as well.

We aren't born with any of these thoughts or feelings.

Possessor of Paul Newman eyes. Author of the straightforward & strange. “Women zai shuo ba.” Be useful; share what you can; help others always. Doctor of texts.

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