I noticed Holly Bradshaw's comment. Read Paul Taylor's and your response. I wasn't going to say anything, not feeling quite qualified. But then I remembered this: https://medium.com/fearless-she-wrote/i-love-my-husband-but-i-want-to-leave-him-d4079e7ab3b1

We all (most of us, at least) want what you want. So many of us never find it, or we lose it somehow and never find it again. Or we imagine it when it was never there at all. And it has always been like this. Nothing has changed. Even the idea people have that something has changed is something that has never changed.

The hurt certainly has never changed. The ability to express, perhaps, has changed some. And we can be glad for that. For the sharing and element of peace it may bring.