I am so happy to hear from you and I hope you are well.
Then the question becomes, in effect, who has the stronger mind, who is more “mindful” of what is taking place in the moment? Something I keep writing about, one way or another, but have difficulty getting published here because, naturally, it becomes critical of those who fashion themselves “yogis” and “empaths” and “trainers” and the like. And those are the people who are published the most, garner the most readers and make the most money for publications.
Medium is not a spiritual location (yes, I have read your “About Me” story) nor is this an excessively spiritual moment.
We are, alternatively, drifting away from “true” spirituality—an attempt to meet and join with the Universal Other—and, instead, are falling prey to the marketing of “self-love” and “happiness.” These “influencers” are key players but the ones I focus on here are the most superficial and hold sway upon the most superficial audience.
Learning to be at peace with the way things are rather than trying to change things that cannot be altered is the only true spiritual path. Learning to work towards the betterment of the lives of others rather than the attainment of artificial happiness for the self is the only true spiritual path.
But these qualify as an ascetic lifestyle, the way of the monk, not the ordinary life of people. Something the best of us can strive for, perhaps, while we attempt, occasionally, to help others who cannot help themselves. And we learn, over time, the best ways we know how to do that based upon our own nature and our capabilities.
We ourselves always need the help of others. That's the way things are.