I am more than happy to discuss this with you off the platform firstname.lastname@example.org
You can see from the comments you were already acquiring that people are interested in this bonding over pain. But only if it is an exclusive pain. Why?
Men have been bonding over their exclusive pain for millennia and what has that produced? Patriarchy, war, racism, vulture capitalism... Where does it end? If it doesn’t end, and soon, we will all go up in smoke. But if I say such a thing on the platform I will be misunderstood and denounced.
I don’t have much longer to live and I’d rather not have to deal with that.