Everyone has to take responsibility in a relationship.

I ended my last relationship after having been stung in it and I could have blamed the other party, but the fault was mine for even entering into it, being so dumb. Not seeing the warning signs each step of the way. Then a friend reminded me that people rarely see the other and are only aware of themselves. And this is true in every relationship at least for a very, very long time, even when you are on the most intimate of terms. You have to accept that at the outset, be prepared for the risks you are taking. But not see them as “risks” as such. As an adventure. Only being certain both of you are on that adventure and traveling the same path together.

Getting to know someone intimately should be an adventure and not a torture.

Possessor of Paul Newman eyes. Author of the straightforward & strange. “Women zai shuo ba.” Be useful; share what you can; help others always. Doctor of texts.